Saturday 28 January 2017

Academy Award Times – La La Land



It is a big movie time for me now. The nominations for Academy Awards are out, and it is very hot in Sydney, so air conditioned movie theatres are a good place to spend time in. I decided to see most of the nominated films and made a good start. I have already seen La La Land, Jackie and Lion. They are three very different films, stirring different emotions. The first made me feel light and happy, the second left me depressed, and the third made me cry. It looks that all three of them did a good emotional job on me. Does it mean that they are all very good films?  I am not so sure.

Surprisingly, I liked best La La Land. Surprisingly, because I am not that keen on musicals and at first I even decided to skip the film and then luckily changed my mind. I changed my mind out of curiosity but did not expect to like the film. My reluctance to see a musical was perhaps caused by some snobbishness and old belief that only serious films are worthwhile to admire. Feel good films have their place of course, but not on the list of Oscar nominations. Well, I changed my mind.

There are many things about La La Land that I think deserve recognition. The warmth and natural attractiveness of the main characters are amongst many others. Ryan Gosling has been on my list to pay attention to since The Ides of March. Now I can see how versatile he is and I will try not miss any of his films in the future. Very sexy too.


I was totally absorbed by the film and the story. The time of the projection passed very fast for me. Everything is pleasant about the film. The soundtrack, choreography, costumes and the story itself. It has not often been enough for me to watch a pleasant film and consider it really good on the strength of its pleasantness. There is a message or two there, but they are not that strong to carry the film to the verdict of being exceptional. 


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I was not impressed by the first scene when the cars are stopped by the traffic jam on the highway to Los Angeles – La La  Land of the young and hopefuls. Suddenly the travellers jump out of their cars and burst into song and dance. This was a bit sudden and artificial to me. Not that musicals or musical films are particularly realistic, but too much is too much.


Here I will quickly contradict myself. La La Land is at times compared to The Umbrellas of Cherbourg, the film I saw ages ago and loved it for its tenderness, romantic story, music, some sweet sadness and the beauty of each scene. I see strong similarities between the two films and I perhaps should not complain at the convention which was never intended to be realistic. Maybe the film’s fairy tale qualities are just the reason why it appealed to me and so many others so strongly?

Here is a sample of the French version of a musical film - The Umbrellas of Cherbourg

Since I have been pondering on relationships and their nature which according to my life observations are usually transient, this film gave me another opportunity to reflect and see the power and value of relationships which may pass but still propel us to another, higher plane of character development.

So, I warmly recommend the film and give it 9 out of 10.

My impressions and observations after watching Lion and Jackie will most likely come a bit later.


Sunday 22 January 2017

The Portrait of a Lady and Donald Trump

The Portrait of a Lady – Henry James

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This is the book I just finished today and am still digesting my impressions and tidying up my thoughts. The book made a very strong impression on me. I was transfixed by it. I did not have any problems with concentration turning page after page for many hours not noticing the passing time.

I must say that there were parts at the beginning of the book that irritated me. I found the dialogues of two young American ladies annoying. The girls, Isabel Archer and Henrietta Stackpole, are so confident that they have answers to most life issues while in fact having too little experience and knowledge as they are so young. At the same time ignorance makes the young err with confidence.

It was interesting that people with much more knowledge and experience were in awe of this ignorance expressed so confidently by the two charming dilatants. On reflection, the girls were beautiful and fresh. I can see that their energy was appealing to the old English aristocracy, so the attention and admiration of the men was directed to their external beauty and unusual boldness in expressing their views rather than their beautiful souls.

This was just the beginning of the book, and as I liked the descriptions of the beautiful old English houses and the gracious living of the old gentry I continued reading, and with passing pages, I got enchanted by the story, then intrigued and finally fascinated. I started to see that the book is still very current being concerned with the timeless subjects still important in the XXI century even if the book was written in 1880.

The story of Isabel Archer, who is loved by three good men and then falls for one who marries her for her money and through his cruelty breaks her spirit, happens all the time in current times as well. Has it happened to me? Maybe not, but I know that one can not recognise a real value of a person and chase glitter instead. Isabel’s choice was based on admiration of intelligence of her man and his seeming lack of interest in opinions of the society. She saw him strong and independent. It is again the story of projecting one’s own values on others and resulting disappointments. Isabel rejecting her two suitors to protect her independence lands up under control of a devious and unscrupulous man. Here my feministic streak woke up again. The times of Henry James were the times when the order of societies put men on top of a social pyramid. Isabel accepted that as a fact of life and was obedient once she married Osmond. Her life shows the transition from buoyant independence and self-reliance through puzzling realisation of sad life truth to final sad acceptance of fate and resignation.

The story is mainly told through dialogues and the thought process of the book characters. It is not exactly a stream of consciousness type of book, but it inspired other writers to write in such a manner. Virginia Woolf, one of my literary fascinations, was one of the disciples of Henry James.

I said that my feministic streak awakened while reading The Portrait of a Lady. We live in the times when equality of women is severely threatened by the new political winds.  Conservatives of many countries come to power and demand that the social order with men of top is returned. Mr Trump is one powerful example of that. Yesterday was his inauguration in Washington, and it was also the time to conduct women marches organised against through the world. There was also such a rally in Sydney, and I decided that it is time for me to get involved. I went to The Sydney Hyde Park to see what was going on. There were crowds of women of all ages; groups of friends and the single ladies. I walked around and listened to the speeches. Those I found uninspiring and missing the point. The old story of Australia belonging to the Aborigines, while important to some, diverted the attention from current women issues and new threats coming from America and its new president. I also heard the emotional speech of a Muslim woman who called herself an Australian. Yes, I agree, she is an Australian as well as I am. Was it important to talk about it on the day? Not so sure. I have to make a disclaimer here - I have not listened to all the speeches so my views may not reflect the whole situation.




I did not take part in the march and elected to go and see The Nudes exhibition in The New South Wales Gallery. Lunch was good and the exhibition disappointing. One Modigliani and The Kiss of Rodin made it worthwhile for me. 



Saturday 14 January 2017

Such is Life


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I just finished my February book club reading – Ann Patchett’s – Commonwealth. It is again a book I would not have read if it was not for the fact that I have joined the local library club and followed the recommendation to read it. If I wanted to be critical of the book I would sum it up – This is a book telling us that divorcing is a bad thing, has the destroying impact on families, but let’s face it – such is life! Of course, the book has its enthusiasts who think it is wonderful and beautifully and cleverly written. While I warmed up to the book towards the end of it and I agree that it is cleverly written, I definitely do not think that it is beautifully written. The language, in my opinion, is basic. Maybe it is OK, maybe it needs to be that way telling this particular story, but for me, there is nothing beautiful about the book’s language. Sometimes I think that I am a literary snob, expecting fireworks of admiration for authors of books I read. Perfectionism has always been for me the area needing some inner work. The books I particularly enjoy are the books I can identify with and in which I can find some explanations of my own life dilemmas. This particular book did not strike such a cord with me. The issues that drive the action of Commonwealth do not apply to my own life, so the book could not have the effect on me that other books have. Maybe I can associate with the issue of selfishness. The story highlights the self-centered approach of a couple of parents who want to live their bliss when the earlier marriages lost their lustre. The easy way to solve some of the marriage problems is to marry somebody else and then somebody else again. This I can identify with, and my life experience shows similar approach. If I were deciding now who to marry, I would go about it in a different way than I did in the past. If I really wanted to live with one person till death do us part, that is. I had my share of selfishness both as a giver and the receiver. Hmm… Such is life.

I can also identify with the loneliness of children portrayed in the book. Their parents were too busy with own personal comforts and preoccupation with each other to pay attention to the children who left alone got into activities negatively influencing their future lives. In my case, the parents were not that egoistic, but they were also too busy working. They did not have time to pay attention to me. So, I read, studied harder than necessary and in desperation to get my mother attention I often got sick. This worked well, and I grew up believing that I was a weakling. I was not.
Now, that I took the time to think and write about my impressions of the book, I am able to find more points that can associate with. One of them is the beauty of my mother and its impact on my life. Commonwealth is also about a beautiful and somehow selfish woman who is not a major character in the book. She is self-indulgent and egoistic. Her self-centered ways profoundly and negatively influence lives of ten people. As I just found out the author’s mother is a very beautiful woman. So beautiful that her daughter gave up on considering herself pretty and decided to focus on being clever, successful and a good person. This worked very well for her. Come to think about it, I was in the similar situation and focused on being clever, successful and a good person. Maybe it worked for me as well even if I am not internationally famous. Would my life have been better if I knew I was very attractive and used it to organise my life around it? Not sure, but it would have been a different life. Would I have been a better person? Probably not. It is interesting that even if Ann Patchett in the interview talks about her mother as being the loving person, one gets an opposite impression reading the book (which is supposed to be heavily autobiographical). The last pages portraying the mother as a warm and loving person do not seem convincing to me, they look like an attempt to change the readers’ impression caused by the full story. I can perhaps understand the duality of feelings of a daughter who sees her mother as a female competitor and at the same time wants to preserve in her memory the image of a loving and giving mother.
Ann Pritchard in the interview said about a book she considers a good one, but she did not enjoy reading it. She summed it up: It was not my thing.
My final comment on the book is – I have read it, and it is fine, but it is not my thing

Saturday 7 January 2017

What I will read in 2017

I have been reading lately more books than in the few previous years. I always read quite a lot if we use current average world readership statistics. There were different books I was interested in until now. I seem to have come back to the type of books I was reading when I was a young woman.  I came back to reading novels. There was a time in my life I went through a kind of sabbatical, I was nineteen then. It was the time to learn about life and what choices I should make for my future. One of the main choices I had to make was the direction of my studies. I was good at mathematics, and I loved books. I believed that books had all the answers to my existential questions. I still do and they do. So I read to find the answers. For some years I read the new age type of books, philosophy, spirituality and psychology. They were the books to study rather than read.  I studied them, it took time and sometimes I felt bored. I rediscovered that good novels have many answers and they are served with more elegance and lightness than the books there are akin to manuals, my choice of many years.

 When I was nineteen, I must have read books about obedience to parents as my choice of professional direction turned out to be mathematics. I elected to live the dream of my father and forget my literary inclinations. No regrets, except for the very difficult five years when I studied pure mathematics. It was not the domain of my talents, but I got my fancy diploma of the Master of Mathematics that made me think that from now on nothing is going to be difficult to comprehend. I was not really right as human nature still puzzles and intrigues me. It is fun to explore it, though, and I love this process.  Now, I am again on a sort of sabbatical and have plenty of time to read and learn. I started to really like this part of my life.

 As I always been a planner I am planning what books I want to read this year. My book club has a list of books we will read and discuss and they may not all be the books of my choice so I am adding the ones I would like to read. It may be a bit presumptuous to assume that the readers of my blog may be interested in my book choices, but I can think of at least one who is an avid reader and in the past gave me good reading suggestions. Even if I may not have followed the advice it was only for the overload of my reading time. My reading appetites are always bigger than my ability to read all I would like to. This is a long introduction to my call for reading suggestions from those of you who are reading this post.
 I am reading now Henry James - The Portrait of the Lady. I had the book on my bookshelf for many years. It is a Polish translation, and so far I am disappointed and even wonder if I am going to finish it. The American ladies are so irritating; I have a problem to even think of them as ladies. And here I consider myself to be a feminist while confident young women irritate me and even seem to me obnoxious. Maybe this is a function of Polish translation? I am only 200 pages down the track so my impressions might change.

The first book of my book club Ann Prichard’s – Commonwealth seems to be an easy read, I wonder how I will feel about it. I will not read all the book club book as I am planning 3-4 months sojourn in Europe. This will be the time to read books in Polish, and I have already a little pile of books waiting for me there. I do not remember the titles exactly, but one of the books is about a woman who was associated with Bruno Schutz, there is also Knausgard book number five waiting for me there. I a looking forward to coming back to reading the book about writing 3600 pages book. I hear the book number five is the best of the set. I will read at least one book by Jacek Dehnel, one of my absolute favourite young Polish writers.

Before I go to Poland, I intend to finally finish Adam Phillips – Missing Out. Thank you Ramana for the suggestion. I already ordered Peter Nadas – The Book of Memories. Another writer considered being a Marcel Proust. Hungarian Marcel Proust, hmm…. Then Hanya Yanagihara – The People in the Trees;  Siri Hustvedt – The Blazing World;  Julian Barnes – The Noise of Time and Polish Jerzy Pilch – Portrait of a Young Venetian (in Polish of course). There is also this book about Lynton Strachey on my night table. Maybe Siri Hustvedt book that has references to the Bloomsbury will re-ignite my interest which in this past was my main literary interest.

Wow, I have rather specific plans, and I am looking forward to exploring new choices.


What do you have in your reading plans? It would be fascinating to hear about it.

Sunday 1 January 2017

2017 has started - Happy New Year!

So, it is already 2017. One wonders how this year will pan out. I hope it will be good. The last year has been a long year for me and marked by some departure of friendships. But it was a year I put in a good year category. The friendships which went away were not real friendships and the fact that I eventually open my eyes to see the reality made me feel lighter. It also meant that I had the courage to say NO, to my illusions and longings. I feel that it was a long year as a lot has happened; there were many uncertainties that turned out positively, many activities and new interests that absorbed my attention. Bridge, Book and Probus clubs added a lot to my social life and gave me a sense of belonging. There is this new kitchen in my place now, not perfect but good enough, so cooking is a pleasure now. I have not written about my concerns regarding Poland after the latest election, but they are considerable. European, especially Polish politics took a lot of my thoughts, attention and worries.

I am starting the New Year promising myself to follow the philosophy of Stoics. The book by Piotr Stankiewicz about “how to live wisely, well and happily” is still on my night table and I keep reading it reflecting on the messages, often taking them to heart and practice. One of the advice I will follow this year is to watch how I spend my time with the intention to reduce wasting it. This, of course, means that I have to have a good knowledge of what is important to me and I think that I am quite clear here. There is considerable room for improvement in my habits and the ways I spend my time. Some computer games will be cut down together with listening to Polish political commentary while solving sudokus.
During my trip to Bali, I rekindled my interest in Qigong and renewed my regular practice. I realised some time ago the value of discipline in my life; the energy and good feeling it gives me. Qigong is already back in my daily routine, and I will add to it meditation as well.  Writing my morning pages has been valuable to me in the past, but it seems to take that much time that the whole morning can easily become one long morning routine. So, my morning pages are still under consideration.

Friendship has always been one of my core values. Sometimes I was led astray, by relationships that I wished were friendships, but they were not. I think I am better now in the friendship selection process and do not get too upset when I come across a disappointment. I hope that this year will bring me lasting friendships, be it face to face or the internet based. I will definitely treasure and cultivate them.

There are some projects which I am planning for this year. Bathrooms project will be the main one and being burnt by the turbulent kitchen installation, I am hesitant and apprehensive. It will require some self-work to move to a positive mindset. I do not think it is going to be easy, but I will do my best.

Bridge, reading and writing are my pleasures, and I intend to continue all of that. They are pleasures, and I also put them into “important” category.

The trip to Poland with a detour to Berlin and Madrid is in my 2017 plans, and I trust I will be able to make it happen.  Another trip I would like to make is to Tasmania to visit Mona and catch up with a friend I have not seen for many, many years.

I have some health checks planned which emotionally are not easy to go through and here I will use my stoic teachings not to worry about potential problems and take things as they come, knowing that some life events are outside of our control and that sometimes things happen unexpectedly.


My goals for this year are less aggressive than they have been in the past and at this stage of my life, I like it that way.